Never Give Up Smoking… until it’s time

Regardless of what you are told, you do not have to give up smoking to be a full-time natural breather — a person who breathes freely without the use of tobacco.

First of all, choosing to stop using tobacco and following through with that choice are courageous and demanding actions on their own.  In support of that work, be assured here and now that you do not have to give up smoking, too.

Now, you may be wondering, “How can I stop using tobacco while not giving up smoking?”

Let me explain.

First of all, the majority of the actions we take in life — the vast number of things we “do” — we do in our imaginations the first time, then over and over and, often, last.  Consider that conversation you had with your spouse last week or the one you are going to have with your boss next week.  Even in reading that sentence, you may well have heard in your head a snippet of one or the other of those conversations.  This is because, the actions we take in the physical world are played, replayed and pre-played in our imaginations over and over.  And, it is not all that unusual for conversations that took place 20 years ago to play again in our heads when triggered by some interrelated event.

Think, now, about the person who has reconfigured his body.  This man who once felt thick and sluggish and wore size 40 shorts, now fits comfortably into a size 34 waistband.  He may look from the outside like someone who has “given up” over-eating.  However, if he wishes to actually remain slender, he must allow his imagination to savor a heaping plate of his favorite food.  And, he must allow his imagination to do this as often as it wishes.

Why must he allow his imagination to do this?  Because, in order to get that much larger, he accustomed his imagination to find valuable and necessary satisfaction from eating large quantities of food.  And, for all the work he is putting into changing his thinking and eating and exercise patterns, he must allow himself to continue to feel satisfied, even when that means finding it in the imaginal act of his old behavior.

What this man now understands is that it is never necessary to deprive himself of satisfaction in order to achieve a better physical state.  In fact, it is that very act of satisfaction deprivation that ensures the rebounding back to an unwelcome habit.

So, what is satisfaction?  Satisfaction is simply the conscious acknowledgement of an effective resolution.  It is arriving at a desired end or, at the very least, achieving an acceptable outcome.

Now, when we take the bold steps of changing a physical behavior pattern that has become habitual, we must not demand that satisfaction be thrown away with the old behavior. For satisfaction is exactly what we want from our decision to change.  Nothing is more heart-rending than the deprivation of satisfaction.

What this has to do with smoking is that for every cigarette or joint or plug of tobacco you’ve enjoyed in the physical world, you smoked or toked or chewed it many times more in your imagination.  And, it is here, in your imagination, that these experiences can and will remain alive and can continue to bring you satisfaction….

Until, something else, even more satisfying, replaces these imagined experiences.

As far as your health goes, of course, imagining smoking tobacco does not hurt your lungs, while an abundance of research indicates the physical act of smoking tobacco does.  In addition, vividly imagining smoking can actually serve your health when you wish to quell your nerves or get away from some difficult situation.

Also, unlike actually smoking in the presence of others (others who are ready to judge you and who may even attempt to shame you), when you smoke in your imagination, you can savor the experience as richly as you like without their busybody interference.  To stand apart for a brief length of time, close your eyes and thoroughly enjoy an imaginary smoke, will not only bring you the satisfactions you had come to associate with smoking, very possibly you’ll leave the people around you mystified and wondering why you’re not stressing out.

For some natural breathers, these imagined experiences of the old behavior are never replaced.  In the physical world, these people breathe naturally without tobacco, which is a welcome gift to their bodies and their families.  Yet, in the privacy of their own imaginations, they continue allowing their imaginations to light up.  The desire for satisfaction is an inside experience and deserves to be as honored as the lungs and heart.

For other people, after awhile, other satisfactions in the physical world take over organically.  The man who now has a 34 inch waist may one day realize that he actually prefers biting into a crisp cold apple to his formerly oft-imagined gobbling of a fat slice of apple pie ala mode.

And, for you, you may some day find your greatest satisfaction in stepping away from tense situations and going outside to inhale the fragrance of your garden’s new flowers.  But, don’t hurry it.  You don’t have to.  You can let your imagination come up with replacement alternatives — if it does — in its own time.

 

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Thoughts are Things… but only for a time

“Thoughts are things.”

Yes, there is much “evidence” that thought is the incipient evidence of things to come.  Thought, then, is the literal foundation stone of all we will ever know, be or have.

A simple example is answering the question, “What would you like to order?”  You respond by reading the menu item which names your desired meal — a written thought — and soon that food you named is handed to you on a plate.

Another example is the professional who is asked, “When did you decide you wanted to be an engineer / doctor / captain?”  The answer is very often recounted as a long-ago thought, formulated in the mind of a small child who had no access to anything but her own imagination, where she formed and nurtured the thought.

And, what of the person who opens a sailing magazine, sees a boat he’d like to own, and he begins to tell himself and then to tell his friends, “I’m going to have a boat like that.”  And, five years later, when he is entertaining those same friends on his new boat, the thought has become the thing that initially resided only in the thought, acknowledged and said to himself at first.

“Thoughts are things.”

In the very least, they are the beginning of things.  For, thinking turns our attention toward what we think about, to the exclusion of other things and shines a brighter light and focus upon that subject of our thinking.

Now, this can be a promise or a threat, depending upon where we are getting our thoughts and toward what outcome we are looking.

Sometimes, when we are looking in a scary direction, we become fixated by sensitization to stare at what we don’t want to have happen.  Yet, our forever thinking mind continues to contemplate, then ruminate and brood, upon the object of our attention.  Following this, it is not uncommon to feel fearful that we are condemned to reaping that thought’s unlovely harvest.

Here’s a how to look at this in a way that keeps the mind free and untroubled by the incessant ebb and flow of thoughts.  Consider that in order to keep a thought constant in the mind, a lot of energy must continually be injected into the thought.  To do this, requires the person to continually turn her attention in the direction of the thought and think it again.  To do this, often takes getting into a similar emotional state as before, use the same or similar words, and envision the same unlovely outcome.

To do this  – to put all of this energy and take all of these steps reanimating the thought in our minds about an outcome we do not want to experience — is exhausting.  Unfortunately, when the mind feels exhaustion, it is less capable of shifting into a new perspective and will yield to a dominant, persistent thought it has become familiar with.

The good news is, the inverse is as true.  As we turn from the invitation to ruminate or think again and again about an unlovely outcome, we treat the thought just like nature treats a radioactive substance: by withdrawing energy from it, it quickly loses its power over us by half lives.**  In the case of a thought, that energy is in the form of attention, which we simply, now, focus in another direction.  A thought robbed of supportive energy, dissolves, diminishes and ultimately disappears simply from lack of attention.

And, lastly, to ensure that we become as fixated on the new other direction as we had once been on the old thought, allow yourself in idle moments to live in and animate the desired outcome.  See it, feel it, taste it, smell it and hear it.

And doodle it.  Make yourself a doodle-a-day.  Every day, make a quick-sketch doodle that represents all of, or some aspect of, your desired outcome.

Any time your mind avers and heads in the direction of what you do not want, pull out your doodle and give it your attention for half a minute.  That’s all you need to disrupt an unlovely thought from taking hold of your dear mind.  Thirty seconds of your attention just calmly looking at your doodle-a-day.  Just like a captain at sea or a pilot in the air, do this simple course correction and be assured that you are destined to reach the port of your heart’s desire.

** Probabilistic nature of half-life[edit]

Simulation of many identical atoms undergoing radioactive decay, starting with either 4 atoms per box (left) or 400 (right). The number at the top is how many half-lives have elapsed. Note thelaw of large numbers: With more atoms, the overall decay is more regular and more predictable.

A half-life usually describes the decay of discrete entities, such as radioactive atoms. In that case, it does not work to use the definition “half-life is the time required for exactly half of the entities to decay”. For example, if there are 3 radioactive atoms with a half-life of one second, there will not be “1.5 atoms” left after one second.

Instead, the half-life is defined in terms of probability: “Half-life is the time required for exactly half of the entities to decay on average“. In other words, the probability of a radioactive atom decaying within its half-life is 50%.

For example, the image on the right is a simulation of many identical atoms undergoing radioactive decay. Note that after one half-life there are not exactly one-half of the atoms remaining, only approximately, because of the random variation in the process. Nevertheless, when there are many identical atoms decaying (right boxes), the law of large numbers suggests that it is a very good approximation to say that half of the atoms remain after one half-life.

There are various simple exercises that demonstrate probabilistic decay, for example involving flipping coins or running a statisticalcomputer program.[2][3][4]

Formulas for half-life in exponential decay[edit]

Main article: Exponential decay

An exponential decay process can be described by any of the following three equivalent formulas:

N(t) = N_0 \left(\frac {1}{2}\right)^{t/t_{1/2}}
N(t) = N_0 e^{-t/\tau} \,
N(t) = N_0 e^{-\lambda t} \,

where

  • N0 is the initial quantity of the substance that will decay (this quantity may be measured in grams, moles, number of atoms, etc.),
  • N(t) is the quantity that still remains and has not yet decayed after a time t,
  • t1/2 is the half-life of the decaying quantity,
  • τ is a positive number called the mean lifetime of the decaying quantity,
  • λ is a positive number called the decay constant of the decaying quantity.

The three parameters t_{1/2}\tau, and λ are all directly related in the following way:

t_{1/2} = \frac{\ln (2)}{\lambda} = \tau \ln(2)

where ln(2) is the natural logarithm of 2 (approximately 0.693).

By plugging in and manipulating these relationships, we get all of the following equivalent descriptions of exponential decay, in terms of the half-life:

N(t) = N_0 \left(\frac {1}{2}\right)^{t/t_{1/2}} = N_0 2^{-t/t_{1/2}} = N_0 e^{-t\ln(2)/t_{1/2}}
t_{1/2} = t/\log_2(N_0/N(t)) = t/(\log_2(N_0)-\log_2(N(t))) = (\log_{2^t}(N_0/N(t)))^{-1} = t\ln(2)/\ln(N_0/N(t))

Regardless of how it’s written, we can plug into the formula to get

  • N(0)=N_0 as expected (this is the definition of “initial quantity”)
  • N(t_{1/2})=\left(\frac {1}{2}\right)N_0 as expected (this is the definition of half-life)
  • \lim_{t\to \infty} N(t) = 0, i.e. amount approaches zero as t approaches infinity as expected (the longer we wait, the less remains).

Decay by two or more processes[edit]

Some quantities decay by two exponential-decay processes simultaneously. In this case, the actual half-life T1/2 can be related to the half-lives t1 and t2that the quantity would have if each of the decay processes acted in isolation:

\frac{1}{T_{1/2}} = \frac{1}{t_1} + \frac{1}{t_2}

For three or more processes, the analogous formula is:

\frac{1}{T_{1/2}} = \frac{1}{t_1} + \frac{1}{t_2} + \frac{1}{t_3} + \cdots

For a proof of these formulas, see Exponential decay#Decay by two or more processes.

Examples[edit]

There is a half-life describing any exponential-decay process. For example:

  • The current flowing through an RC circuit or RL circuit decays with a half-life of RC\ln(2) or \ln(2)L/R, respectively. For this example, the termhalf time might be used instead of “half life”, but they mean the same thing.
  • In a first-order chemical reaction, the half-life of the reactant is \ln(2)/\lambda, where λ is the reaction rate constant.
  • In radioactive decay, the half-life is the length of time after which there is a 50% chance that an atom will have undergone nuclear decay. It varies depending on the atom type and isotope, and is usually determined experimentally. See List of nuclides.

The half life of a species is the time it takes for the concentration of the substance to fall to half of its initial value.

Half-life in non-exponential decay[edit]

Main article: Rate equation

The decay of many physical quantities is not exponential—for example, the evaporation of water from a puddle, or (often) the chemical reaction of a molecule. In such cases, the half-life is defined the same way as before: as the time elapsed before half of the original quantity has decayed. However, unlike in an exponential decay, the half-life depends on the initial quantity, and the prospective half-life will change over time as the quantity decays.

As an example, the radioactive decay of carbon-14 is exponential with a half-life of 5730 years. A quantity of carbon-14 will decay to half of its original amount (on average) after 5730 years, regardless of how big or small the original quantity was. After another 5730 years, one-quarter of the original will remain. On the other hand, the time it will take a puddle to half-evaporate depends on how deep the puddle is. Perhaps a puddle of a certain size will evaporate down to half its original volume in one day. But on the second day, there is no reason to expect that one-quarter of the puddle will remain; in fact, it will probably be much less than that. This is an example where the half-life reduces as time goes on. (In other non-exponential decays, it can increase instead.)

The decay of a mixture of two or more materials which each decay exponentially, but with different half-lives, is not exponential. Mathematically, the sum of two exponential functions is not a single exponential function. A common example of such a situation is the waste of nuclear power stations, which is a mix of substances with vastly different half-lives. Consider a sample containing a rapidly decaying element A, with a half-life of 1 second, and a slowly decaying element B, with a half-life of one year. After a few seconds, almost all atoms of the element A have decayed after repeated halving of the initial total number of atoms; but very few of the atoms of element B will have decayed yet as only a tiny fraction of a half-life has elapsed. Thus, the mixture taken as a whole does not decay by halves.

Half-life in biology and pharmacology[edit]

Main article: Biological half-life

A biological half-life or elimination half-life is the time it takes for a substance (drug, radioactive nuclide, or other) to lose one-half of its pharmacologic, physiologic, or radiological activity. In a medical context, the half-life may also describe the time that it takes for the concentration in blood plasma of a substance to reach one-half of its steady-state value (the “plasma half-life”).

The relationship between the biological and plasma half-lives of a substance can be complex, due to factors including accumulation in tissues, activemetabolites, and receptor interactions.[5]

While a radioactive isotope decays almost perfectly according to so-called “first order kinetics” where the rate constant is a fixed number, the elimination of a substance from a living organism usually follows more complex chemical kinetics.

For example, the biological half-life of water in a human being is about 9 to 10 days,[citation needed] though this can be altered by behavior and various other conditions. The biological half-life of cesium in human beings is between one and four months. This can be shortened by feeding the personprussian blue, which acts as a solid ion exchanger that absorbs the cesium while releasing potassium ions in their place.

 

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Are You AWAKE?

First, I invite you to watch this video as famed British showman and hypnotist Derren Brown remotely hypnotizes a volunteer subject, then literally transports him from one continent to another without the subject’s knowledge or later remembering.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q7r4Ey4WBpY&NR=1

The subject, Richard, was entirely unaware of what occurred during 13 hours of his life, a time during which he was physically transported from London to Morocco.  Richard was not only unaware of what was happening to him while it occurred, when he came out of trance, he remembered none of it!   However bizarre as that may seem, consider that those completely forgotten 13 hours are very much like the 24  hours in a day, the 168 hours in a week and the 8,736 hours in a year that pass unremembered in countless people’s lives.  Sleepwalking day after day, year after year, they remember little or nothing of where they’ve been or what they have done and said.

Some people do wake up before the very end.  In many cases, a tragedy, illness or other life shock snaps them awake.  Involuntarily, they wake up from decades in a profession or a marriage or a long, unconscious span of time, finding themselves in a completely alien place, or body, or state of mind.  They are as disoriented and confused as Richard, wondering how in heaven’s name they wound up where they are.  Yet, they are the fortunate ones.  They have woken up.  They still have time to actually live whatever moments, hours or days they have left.  Time to be alive before they die.

Are you one of these fortunate ones?  Just how deeply asleep have you been and are you now?  To test this, try to recall, right now, how many of the events in the past 10 years of your own life you remember vividly.  Alternatively, make it easier; start with this year.  Close your eyes, and try to quickly and vividly remember one event from each week of this last calendar year.  Less than 52 events in 2009.  Just one event a week.  Richard didn’t remember anything from a 13-hour period, but, surely, you can remember something from a 168-hour week, can’t you?  Quickly now, can you remember one event from the first week of January, 2009?  How about from the second week?  the third week?  an event from the third week of February 2009?  or the third week of March?

Think about it.  How conscious – or catatonic – are you?  Are you being carried and pushed and transported through the hours and days, months and years of your life just as Richard is in this video?  Hours, days and years you barely remember, if you remember them at all.  And, if you don’t remember where you’ve been and what you were doing, who remembers?  How can you hope that your life will matter to others when it matters this little to you?

Ask yourself, “Who has been in control of my life while I’ve been sleepwalking through it?”  Give serious consideration to who or what has been carrying you along:  Your boss, directing your mind’s output?  Your spouse, directing your social life?  The news, directing your emotional state?  An infinitude of advertisers, directing you how and on what to spend your money?

Now, consider, if you are still breathing, if your heart is still beating, if the sun has risen one more time, you still have the chance to WAKE UP NOW!

Finally, watch this next Derren Brown video and consider who will be in control when your own sun disappears.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EvyHH3C3Gds&feature=fvw

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Moving from Authoritarian Conscience to Self-Actualized

The following is an excerpt from a correspondence between two dear friends:
 I’ve recently been contemplating and writing about what the German philosopher Erich Fromm called the “Authoritarian Conscience,” and the “Humanistic Conscience” in his 1947 book Man for Himself; An Inquiry into the Psychology of Ethics.  I’ve renamed the latter as the “Self-Actualized Conscience,” due to a preference for the concept of self-actualization and an awareness of certain irrelated prejudices toward the word “humanistic.”
How I believe this relates here is that, according to Fromm, “The authoritarian conscience is the voice of an internalized external authority.”  Before one internalizes the external voices, the person may comply with edicts and directives for the authority’s “alleged or real ability to punish and to reward.”  However, after we internalize those voices, when “the laws and sanctions of external authority become part of oneself,… instead of feeling responsible to something outside oneself, one feels responsible to something inside, to one’s conscience.” And, “one can not escape from oneself, nor, therefore, from the internalized authority which has become part of oneself…. The prescriptions of authoritarian conscience are not determined by one’s own value judgment but exclusively by the fact that its commands and taboos are pronounced by authorities.”
Since you are a genial woman who clearly respects and appreciates me, and since I am truly fine with you as you are and delighted with you as you chose to be today, I invite you to gently ask if any remaining need to feel awkward, ashamed, embarrassed or judged may be coming from a remnant voice of authority that could be criticizing you well out of reasonable proportion to the lovely woman you are.
In my continuing study of these concepts, I’ve linked the Authoritarian conscience concept to the “Competitive Mind” of Wallace D. Wattles, author of The Science of Getting Rich, and the Self-Actualized conscience with Wallace’s “Creative Mind.”  Wattles contends that living from a competitive mind interferes with our living as free individuals since, in that state, we’re forever looking over our shoulder at what other people are doing and feel driven to keep up with them.  Well, it seems to me, this sense of competitiveness arises or is, at least, greatly strengthened by the authoritarian conscience which is forever comparing us to who we should be and to whom we are not, pitting us in incessant competition with those ideals, as well as with everyone else on the planet.
On the other hand, living in Creative Mind ensures that our attention is on what we can add to the world, which can most freely happen when we are living from our own value judgments.  Fromm’s definition of [Humanistic] Self-Actualized Conscience is  “our very own voice, present in every human being and independent of external sanctions and rewards…. It is the voice of our true selves which summons us back to ourselves, to live productively, to develop fully and harmoniously — that is, to become what we potentially are.  It is the guardian of our integrity; it is the ‘ability to guarantee one’s self with all due pride, and also at the same time to say yes to one’s self.‘* If love can be defined as the affirmation of the potentialities and care for, and the respect of, the uniqueness of the loved person, humanistic conscience can be justly called the voice of our loving care for ourselves.”
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Wake Up from fear and Become AWARE

Are you tormenting yourself with worry, fear, panic or anxiety day after day? Are you allowing these states to daily rip your guts out just like the vultures did to Prometheus?

The easiest way to know when panic indicates discomfort rather than real danger is to observe the impulse to go into distraction. For example, to feel a sudden urge to read new postings to your FaceBook page, play a game on your iPhone, scan YouTube for some humorous or disastrous video clip, or reach for something to eat, drink or smoke.

In real danger, you would do none of these.

Therefore, allow this impulse to distraction to become a trigger to wake up to your discomfort and what it’s really about. Once you recognize that you are not in danger but simply, momentarily uncomfortable, take the five steps of AWARE as defined in this webpage by Dr. David Carbonell:

http://www.anxietycoach.com/overcoming-panic-attacks.html

Release yourself from the illusion that you are living in a dangerous world; begin today to wake up, become AWARE and regain your rightful authority over your life.

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Don’t “Hang in there!”

Whenever you or anyone else tells you to “Hang in there!” it is because you and they see the current moment in your life as bad or difficult.  Yet, it is not the moment that is bad; it is the perception of the moment as bad that is creating your feelings of difficulty.  Labeling something as bad and then staying in proximity to it is antithetical to rational thinking.  Enduring bad times is actually an act of insanity.

Turn your attention as fast as you can to finding what is valuable or blessed, educational or enlightening in the moment, just as it is.  Actively look for what you are gaining by being right where you are, doing exactly what you are doing.  And, when you find that benefit, however small in comparison to everything else in this moment, put all of your attention on that benefit and say to yourself, over and over, “Thank you, thank you, thank you.”

Put all your heart into feeling gratitude and your perception will very soon change.  You will begin to see what else is valuable in this moment.  And your awareness will expand to reveal the truth that life is always getting better and better, and you are getting better and better with it.

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From Worry to Creative Solutions

Edited – first Posted on November 15, 2010 by admin

For years, as soon as I woke up, my mind would leap into worry. Whether it was after the alarm clock rang in the morning or in the middle of the night.  My mind would immediately begin to worry about people with whom I was out of harmony, impending events that I considered daunting or projects with looming deadlines.

I dreaded waking up and falling immediately into worry so much, that, as sleep approached in the evening, I would begin worrying about waking up the following morning to a worried mind.  My body would tense, my stomach ache, my heart would feel torn to shreds.  I came to expect and endure the sensation of my entire night’s rest lost and replaced by a massive weariness.

Then, a wonderful new thought occurred to me.  What if my thinking wasn’t really worry at all?  What if my mind went to these topics because it was eager to do what it was made to do — find solutions to apparent problems?  What if my mind was scanning the landscape of my life for places to use its Creative Imagining?

And, where better to use creative imagining than on those concerns I had identified as real-time, real-world dilemmas?  Of course!  This made perfect sense.

Now, as I wake into a brand new dawn, I direct the energy, talent and wisdom of my sweet mind toward satisfying and expansive solutions.  The way I do this is by posing some very simple questions for my mind to answer.  I realize that, with a solution-oriented invitation, my mind will as eagerly look for creative – and welcome –answers just as readily as it used to look for troubles.

I invite you to join me and wake up your mind in this loving way each morning.  Simply ask yourself the following questions. And, you needn’t trouble yourself to focus on finding the answers right away.  Simply allow your eyes to scan over these questions when you awake.  [Print the questions on a piece of paper and tape the paper to the ceiling above your bed.  Then, in the morning, open your eyes and, in drowsy hypnopompic ease, just allow your gaze to slowly drift down the page from top to bottom.]

I guarantee you will see your own fine mind leaping eagerly into the day looking for – and finding – available, workable and welcome answers, just like a young dog bounding after a ball thrown far into an open field.  All that’s left for you to do is get up from bed, calmly prepare for your unfolding day and be prepared to feel the thrill of welcome solutions arriving to satisfy you and fulfill your requests.

Then, at bedtime, again just like with a loyal dog, pet your mind, thank it for having served you so well, and promise to give it as much good to chase after tomorrow.

LOVING QUESTIONS FOR MY FINE MIND

1.  About this current situation, what unique, respectful and imaginative contribution can I come up with today?

2. What new answers to old problems can I discover today?

3. What new skills will I develop today, and how will I use them to great satisfaction?

4.Who can I see in a brighter more loving light today?

5. What exciting new contribution can I give to the world today?

6.How can I feel more alive, happy, and thankful today?

This simple shift from labeling the process of my own morning thinking from worry to Creative Imagining has made a fantastic difference in my life.  I ardently invite you to give it a test.

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Comprehension, Reason and Superstition

To genuinely, fully comprehend something, a person allows herself to experience that thing in a significant and intentionally invested manner.  True comprehension is an act of personal discovery which leads to internalized understanding.  How ever unique to the person the experience may be, the sensations of that experience cannot be denied.  And thus, the person’s comprehension cannot be argued or denied.

To reason is to apply explanations, justification, inference and intellectual analysis to a thing.  Most often, these tools of reason are obtained from sources other than the reasoner’s personal experience. Reasoning is not so much an act of experience as it is one of observation and judgment formulated from various external sources and “authorities”.  By its nature, reason is limited to the scope of theoretical speculation and accumulated data available from outside the reasoner.  That is to say, unlike comprehension, which is founded in sensory-confirming experience, reasoning is bounded within a circle of second-hand information beyond which is ignorance.

Superstition is a belief resulting from ignorance.  When a person chooses to speculate on the world beyond her own experiential comprehension of it, she immediately enters the realms of reason and superstition.  As much as we are seemingly awash in a sea of reason — of evidence and proof and science and authorities — much of that seemingly irrefutable reason is frequently and rapidly disproven, revealing a basis in superstition.  And yet, we quote these reasoning sources, we vote for them and we turn over the care of our bank accounts and our bodies to them.  And when they fail us, we are again faced with the knowledge that without the confirmation of our own personal experience, we stood on thin ice that could not hold us.

There is much temptation to speak as though we comprehend something about the thousands of topics swirling around us in conversation and media.  However, it’s probable that what we repeat from external sources will prove, in time, to be no more well-reasoned than simple short-lived superstition.  In either case, the one who contributes this second-hand information only echoes someone else’s speculation.

Yet, the person who offers her own irrefutable insight from personal experience actually adds to the body of human understanding, or comprehension, in a vastly more useful and applicable way.  It’s on the shoulders of such persons that those who continue to develop the evolution of mankind stand and grow.

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A MILLION – FREE AND CLEAR

Game #29 of THE GREATEST STORY EVER TOLD IS YOURS; 21 Games for Remembering and Staying Yourself in a World of Change

A MILLION – FREE AND CLEAR

One of the most joy-destroying mindsets we can have is to believe ourselves poor. And, yet, the idea of poverty is always founded on comparison between our current state and either another state we have created in imagination or, more often, someone else’s state. Comparison is definitely the fastest way out of Heaven or any hope of grounded self-appreciation.

It is never the differing conditions that are a problem – for the world is obviously big enough to encompass all possible states and activities and conditions and people, simply because it does. The problem arises when the mind gets caught in comparison and the person feels compelled to assign relative value to things and people.

Yet, for the most part, we and things just are. No need to say what is better what is worse, what is good what is bad, what has intrinsic value and what doesn’t. For, in the end, no matter how strident our arguments and how convinced we become, the truth is, we are all different, with different desires and on different paths and comparing does nothing to change this. It only casts the comparison-troubled mind out of the Heaven possible for those who simply go about their own happy, productive and prosperous lives.

The good news is, since this is essentially a state of mind, it is in mind where we can find resolution and return, again, to our natural relationship with who we are and what we have, which is in balance, acceptance and eagerness to enjoy what is in us and for us, here and now.

And, it is always from this point that your finest new ideas for growth and expansion come – never from the grasping, drowning terror of having too little.

Breathe in…… Breathe out……

To begin this mind-liberating game, which in turn will open your awareness to the absolute abundance that surrounds and fills you now, simply relax and

Breathe in…… Breathe out……

Now, in your imagination, line up all your family and friends and everyone you are currently involved with. This involvement can be coworkers, people you see every day at the bus stop in the dry cleaners or the hardware store.

Place these people in a line, shoulder to shoulder and facing you. In the hands of each person put a check. Each check is for one million dollars and, in the lower left corner of each check, the words, “Free and Clear” are written. Each check is drawn from the account of the person holding it, and each one is made out to you.

Breathe in…… Breathe out……

Now, walk from one end of this lineup of people to the other. Look into the eyes of the giver and say “Thank you,” as you accept each check.

Notice what your thoughts are about the giver and how you feel as you accept each check. Notice if you decline or refuse to accept the check.

If you refuse the check, stay standing in front of that person until the check transforms into something you are willing to accept from that person. Notice if you refuse to accept anything from that person. Then, notice what thoughts you have that incite that refusal. Is the thought about how you don’t think he/she can afford to give something/anything
to you? Or is the thought about how you will not accept anything from that person because you prefer to sustain an opinion/judgment about that person being an awful person who cannot be good enough to give anything? Will you have to redefine your own story about that person and accepting a gift will force you to do that?

Continue on down the line of people accepting these checks being offered to you while you consider how much, right now, is being held out to you for the taking, “free and clear.”

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Who Can Be Hypnotized?

As a hypnotist, I am often asked, “Who can be hypnotized?”

According to an article in Prevention magazine, The Healing Power of Hypnosis, by Alexis Jetter, March 2006, the answer is “Nearly everyone.”  Jetter reports this is the conclusion of “Max Shapiro, PhD, director of education and research for the New England Society of Clinical Hypnosis and the former chief psychologist at Newton-Wellesley Hospital in Massachusetts. He has found that 91% of the population is susceptible to hypnotic suggestion.”

However, consider that “nearly everyone,” could be closer to 100% of us.  If you have ever been scared in the dark, felt momentarily consumed by unfounded fear or dread, cried in a movie, or shouted back at someone else’s anger, these are all examples of times when you were hypnotized.  In each of these cases, you had become entranced by a suggestion that was sufficiently powerful to cause psychological and physiological responses in you without any person or thing actually touching your body, each response prompted merely by a suggestion, which is the essence of all hypnosis.

Hypnosis occurs when your attention is narrowly focused, your imagination is actively engaged and, together, they evoke an emotional state.  What is most interesting is that all of this happens inside you.  This is why hypnotists say it is the subject who hypnotizes herself.  All a hypnotist does and can ever do is make a suggestion.  The hypnosis happens when the recipient agrees to accept and act on that suggestion.

Nevertheless, this doesn’t mean that everyone is always aware of all of the suggestions being made to them.  Through the words of your friends, the advertisements of merchants, the images of filmmakers, and the edicts of behavior from parents, teachers and every other authority external to your own mind, you are being bombarded by suggestions to act, think and believe as others would like you to do.  Sometimes the only way we can know that we took a suggestion is to look at what we are wearing, eating, saying or doing.  Only by standing back from time to time to look at our own activities can we assess if we have been hypnotized.

Notice if it feels as though you have been going from one external suggestion to another, acting like an android or a well-trained monkey, doing what other people told you to do, regardless of whether or not it correlated to any sense of your own genuine satisfaction or purpose on the planet.  If, in observing yourself and your choices, you don’t particularly like what you’re doing, what you’re wearing or eating or saying or in any other way behaving, it can be worthwhile to question whose suggestions you’ve been following.  And, if what you see surprises you, consider this surprise as an awakening from hypnotic trance.

Nevertheless, despite the sense of being jolted a bit by this awakening, this is a good place to be. Your salvation rests in this startling recognition.  Since the hypnotic trance state always happens inside the mind of the recipient, this means that you always have the ultimate authority to stop taking unwanted suggestions.  You have the power and the supreme right to evict from your head any and every voice whose ideas you no longer wish to follow.  And the greatest news of all – when you stop giving away your “authority,” it automatically returns full-force to you.

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Accepting Your Success

Have you ever noticed that sometimes when you have contemplated your dreamed-of or impending success, a thought comes that tells you you won’t be able to handle it?  Instead of visualizing all of the goodness and benefits of all that you have worked toward, do you ever find your mind vividly depicting horrible outcomes, failures, tragedies and loss?

I invite you to consider that these unlovely cautionary tales and mini-movies are simply evidence that you have momentarily fallen into perceiving the world through the authoritarian conscience.  As discussed in the preceding post, the authoritarian conscience is an internalization of external authority, most often unrelated to our own personal value judgments.  The words of authoritarian conscience are those of caution, suggested danger and outright threat.  And they are very effective in gaining the compliance of children, which is why big people will continue to use this pattern on children.

However, what is troubling is that, if we continue into adulthood looking through this externalized and scary lens, we see the world as a dangerous place in which failure, loss and tragedy are probable and incessant outcomes.  As long as we are held spell-bound by this view, we will do all we can to minimize those awful outcomes, including the sabotage or betrayal of our desired success.  This can create an exhausting internal tug-of-war as our natural urge to grow and develop who we are, to become successful in being ourselves, collides with this invading voice that is constantly holding us back from certain danger.

Yet, it is possible to lessen the authority of that voice.  We can release ourselves of that thwarting force by simply acknowledging that we followed its guidance originally when we were naive and innocent children.  We yielded our minds to its authority when we were small and were, indeed, in a place of greater susceptibility and vulnerability in a world we didn’t know.

Of course, a child could not handle the success of a business owner, the achievements of a fine athlete, the satisfaction of an accomplished designer or the fruitful expressions of a mature, creative adult.  However, as you are achieving that success, that satisfaction, that fulfillment of your finest dreams, you are not that child; you are an adult fulfilling your place in the scheme of things.

Now, as adults, we have already achieved a place of adequate self-mastery and sufficient communication skills.  To some degree all of us have come to understand the world in which we live and are at ease with the responsibilities of adulthood.  We can let go of the perception of ourselves as small.  And, indeed, we must let go of that self perception in order for others to see us as we wish to be seen.  For, it is unavoidably true that we are forever being seen as we see ourselves, as this cautionary Biblical passage suggests.  “And there we saw the giants… and we were in our own sight as grasshoppers, and so we were in their sight.”Numbers 13:33.

As any other living thing, you were born to thrive.  You are here to receive, savor and effectively handle the successful expressions of your own purposeful life.  You are here to easily and smoothly manage the goodness and profit that naturally come into such an accomplished life.  You are here to reclaim your mind from the implanted external authority, to retrieve your life by self-actualization, and to reap a great and worthy harvest that befits your finest dreams.

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